That's it. In terms of the actual
ceremony ― five minutes, tops. The rest ― all the fuss
and furor, the discussions and decision-making, the planning and
pageantry ― is just window dressing... right?
You could have a cold, impersonal five-minute
courthouse wedding in jeans and a T-shirt and be just as married.
(Maybe your fiancé has already suggested this route? <wink>)
But would you feel married? We humans tend to need some ritual
to acknowledge the rites of passage we experience in life:
Christenings and funerals. Birthdays
and graduations. Holidays... and weddings.
Important milestones need a little pageantry,
celebrated amid a gathering of friends and family, to mark the occasion.
And if you don't have a church home or religious
affiliation where the officiant often comes with the territory, I
can solemnize your marriage for you in the manner that you choose,
whether it's spiritual or secular, traditional or contemporary, or
something totally unique.
I'm up for pretty much anything....
- Want to tie the knot in the supermarket aisle
where you met? With the store's permission, I'm happy to officiate
among the fresh fruit or cereal boxes.
- Envision your exchange of vows in a meadow of
wildflowers? I'll don sunscreen and insect repellant and perform
your ceremony prairie-style. (A
word about outdoor weddings....)
- Have your heart set on an intimate wedding by
the fireplace of an old Victorian mansion? I'd be honored to solemnize
your marriage in such a setting.
- Share an activity with your groom and want it
incorporated into your ceremony? I am undaunted by the prospect
of officiating in a bowling alley, on a fire truck, or the like.
- Always dreamed of a medieval or other kind of
themed wedding? I love dressing up!
(However, as adventurous as I am, I do draw the
line at a few things. Here's what I won't
I'm also happy to incorporate into your ceremony
other elements that make it meaningful to you, such as the Unity
Candle, Blending of Sands, Tying the Knot, Jumping the Broom, Parent/Family
vows, or other kinds of ethnic or family traditions. Click on Other "Joyful
Promises" and Additional Rituals for more information on
So, let's talk
about your wedding....